Everyone in this world has to
deal with pain and sorrow at some point of time. Nobody on this planet of earth
has born, who don’t face difficulties and hard times. No one’s life is entirely
free from pain and sorrow. It is part of life, we live with.
Then, isn’t it worth to learn how
to live with pain comfortably, rather than avoiding it and complaining about
it.
Most of the people seek advice's
and try to find ways with which the pain and sorrow in life could be avoided.
And there is no less availability of people who suggest such and such ways to
avoid it. How we turn off our faces towards a thing which is part of our life?
It is like asking a lazy person to switch off the light and he replies with, “let
the eyes be closed”.
We need to understand this fact
that most part of the pain is unnecessarily created by us. In reality it is
much less then we see. It is self-created by us. Our mind tries to process the
same problem again and again. The result is more pain and nothing else.
Why after all we feel pain and sorrow?
The most important reason that
we feel pain is the non-acceptance of things and events of life. We show
resistance to what is. This resistance is shown both at the emotional level as
well as at the judgmental level. It means the intensity of pain is directly
proportional to the degree of resistance given to the reality.
Another reason that is somehow linked
with the above one is fear of things. We fear, not because things happened but
think might happen. How silly it is that we live a present moment while our
mind is worried about future. You can handle the present, how could you cope
with something that is nothing but a mere projection of your mind.
How to lower your pain then?
So if you want to lower your
pain, show less resistance to the things that happened to your life. Accept
things as they are. Things will start working for you.
If you no longer want to create
more pain for yourself, don’t escape from the present and never deny it. The
more you accept to what is, the more you are free from pain. Say “yes” to life
and see how you would feel amazingly different.
Appreciate what you have and others
don’t. Don’t look at other people what they have, you don’t possess. You don’t
know their life. You don’t know their reality. May be they had faced a lot more
in the past you are facing now. May be the colorful faces you see are
internally desolated.
Watch out your mind
Humans have been gifted with the most powerful asset by the nature-the mind. Its work is to think. It works round the clock and never stops. Even a person is at rest, his mind is subconsciously involved in diverse thoughts.
If you are able to control your
mind your life would be able to face any obstacle of life. Because the pain and
worry is created in the mind, it lies here. It has no concrete shape outside the
mind. No matter what happens to your life, it is the mind that thinks over it and
assess the situation.
If the mind starts overthinking
over a same problem, it becomes worse. Be alert and break this loop of
thinking. Think over the problem rationally why and how it happened, take good
things from it and leave the bad.
You are the one!
Only you know the intensity of
your pain, you know how it hurts. You know what triggers your sorrow. You know
what demoralizes you and make you unhappy. And if there is anyone who could
really take you out of this is you. Nobody can do it for you.
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